Did he have an accident? Am I annoying him? You should ask yourself what evidence you have that led you to this conclusion. It's likely all your imagination at this point because if he hasn't told you why he is unresponsive, then you just don't know his reasons.
He could be busy or be somewhere he had to ignore his phone. Even if your boyfriend is at home and could easily access his phone to return your texts, another thing to keep in mind is that he is not obligated to respond to every message you send him immediately.
You don't need to take offense to that. Sometimes individuals in a relationship need a little space or time for their interests, and it doesn't necessarily indicate that anything is wrong. When you are in a partnership with someone whether it be a new relationship or a long-term marriage, you have to remember that while you are merging your lives, you are also two individuals who need physical and emotional space at times.
You need to take care of yourself and do things without your partner sometimes. You want to have boundaries where you respect the space that your partner needs at times. If your texts go ignored on a regular basis, then you may have more of a problem on your hands. In this case, you should choose a time when you are calm, and in person, to discuss with your boyfriend how it makes you feel when you send a text,, and he doesn't respond for a long time. Discuss what you both feel are reasonable lengths of time to expect a response.
Be honest without being hurtful to your partner. Also allow him to explain his reasons and don't automatically assume that because you have different ideas about communication, that he doesn't care about you. Try and meet somewhere in the middle if possible where your boyfriend tries his best to respond more frequently while you work on managing your expectations and not expecting the worst if he doesn't respond as fast as you'd like. Being ignored in person is also called the silent treatment.
It may just be that your boyfriend doesn't say anything to you unless you specifically address him first. If you just started dating the guy, he might be nervous about the relationship altogether. He also might be worried because of how your relationship is progressing. For some people, a serious relationship can be scary. He could have never been in this position before. He may not know what to expect or might have heard only bad things about long-term relationships.
This could be his way of buying time and slowing things down. Relationships can be a huge deal to some people, especially when they become more serious. He just needs time to work through his feelings and get over his fears. All you can do is support him and give him the space he needs. Things can be taken the wrong way, or they may be left unsaid altogether. There could have been a miscommunication between you and your boyfriend. Perhaps he took something you said the wrong way. This could be due to your words, tone, or body language.
Once your boyfriend stops ignoring you, you can try working on your communication with each other. Communication can always be improved, especially in a relationship. It would be best if your boyfriend told you that you made him mad so that the two of you could resolve the problem together.
Instead, your boyfriend might be ignoring you as a way to show you he is mad. As you can probably see, there are many different reasons that your boyfriend could be ignoring you. Hopefully, after he has time to think it over, he will talk to you so that you can work it out together. This is actually really common. It's also common to be in denial about it. If your first reaction was, "Oh, no, I'm not a negative person at all! Were they mostly you complaining about something that happened during your day?
Do you gossip about people? Do you bring drama into his life? Do you never seem to have anything nice to say? Even if your boyfriend is the same way, he still might find it draining to talk to someone like this. If you are very negative, consider changing your mental habits—not so much for his sake, but for yours. Are you always asking your boyfriend for lots of favors? Do you ask him to do something for you every time you call?
It may be hard to think about this objectively, but you may be asking more of your boyfriend than you realize. Your boyfriend might be ignoring you simply because he doesn't want to keep helping you with random tasks. Some guys like doing their girlfriends lots of little favors, but most guys don't, and some guys really don't.
One good way to tell that a guy doesn't have that sort of "helpful" personality is if he never asks you for favors either. This is another common reason why your boyfriend might be ignoring you. It's not a good reason since he really should be upfront and tell you that he needs space, but a lot of people who are afraid to speak their minds do this.
He could feel suffocated for many reasons. Some of them might not even be your fault necessarily; he could just be the kind of person who needs a lot of time alone, and you've been hanging around too often.
Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings by turning you down, so he's just been ignoring you instead. It's sad but true: some people are just too cowardly to tell you the truth, so they decide to "ghost" you instead. It could be that your boyfriend is considering leaving you--or has already decided on it—and rather than having a long, painful conversation with you about it, he's ignoring you.
He might be contemplating how to tell you, but can't bring himself to face you in the meantime. He could also just be secretly hoping that you'll take the hint and disappear from his life.
Obviously, whether someone would do this or not depends on their maturity level and how much they value the relationship. Think back towards the past: has he ever refused to communicate about something before? Did he ever avoid telling you something important because he thought it would hurt your feelings? Have you ever seen him give a friend the cold shoulder rather than discussing the issue? These could all be signs that he has trouble expressing what he wants openly.
If he really is avoiding and ignoring you because he's too afraid to tell you, then maybe you're better off single. It sounds terrible, but relationships like these really aren't worth it. Your boyfriend's whole world probably doesn't revolve around you—nor should it. And if your world revolves around him, then stop it. It is possible that he is deeply preoccupied with a huge life change or event, and has simply been too absorbed in that to contact you. Of course, that's no excuse to not say anything, but at least it's a reason.
Consider this possibility especially if you tend to be very demanding on your boyfriend's time. Ironically, if you don't have a tendency to call your boyfriend a million times per day, and calls from you are relatively rare, he's much more likely to answer. However, if you constantly want to spend hours upon hours talking on the phone, and hours more hanging out in person, then he'll realize that replying to you is a huge time commitment.
If he's short on time, he may put off contacting you and end up forgetting about your texts and calls. Again, that's not necessarily a good excuse, but it's understandable to a degree. If you have a needy girlfriend who wants constant attention, but you are in the middle of writing your dissertation, you're going to ignore at least a few calls. Just because your boyfriend is ignoring you, there's no need to get paranoid and jump to conclusions automatically. Before you decide that he's unfaithful, you need to assess many different suspicious behaviors, not just one.
But if he's been ignoring you a lot and hanging out with other random women, then you might want to consider this possibility. Again, there is no need to go totally psychotic on him, but you should think about taking some steps to figure out if he has been hanging out with other women instead of hanging out with you. It could be that he simply hates talking on the phone, so he habitually ignores all phone calls.
In that case, it's nothing personal; he probably didn't even know that it was you who was calling because he might have not even glanced at his phone. For some people, it's hard to fathom how anyone in this day and age could dislike playing with their phone, but your boyfriend could be part of this minority.
I've definitely been guilty of this myself and I have ignored phone calls from the women in my life. Sometimes you just don't want to be bothered with pressing a hot piece of metal and glass to your ear. If you think that this might be the problem, then try texting him instead and just waiting for him to get back to you.
You could also try seeing him in person. You might find that he never noticed that you had called. Some guys are very introverted and regularly "unplug" from their social life. In other words, he could be ignoring you on purpose—but only because he's ignoring everyone else, too.
This might seem unfair to you, but it's just a fact of life that some people need more silence than others. It would have been polite of him to tell you what he needed ahead of time, but some women can get loud and complain about that sort of thing which defeats the purpose of silence.
What do you do if your boyfriend is ignoring you because he just happens to be one of these intense introverts? You just wait. If you can't handle it, that's perfectly understandable. Let him know that a relationship like this just isn't for you. Now that you know some reasons why you are being ignored, the question remains: what do you do?
You can't just sulk in your room all day pining for your boyfriend to contact you, instead you have to go out and do something productive. For many people, it is not so much the why but the how—namely how do you get your boyfriend to stop giving you the silent treatment? Here are some strategies to help you get him to start talking to you again. What does that mean? Answer: It probably means you should move on. Silence is telling.
Don't waste your time on a guy who is unsure. Question: My boyfriend has been ignoring me for one month and few days. What should I do?
Question: My boyfriend is ignoring me. I have called, texted, and even chatted him up. He has seen my messages and still has not replied to me, neither has he returned my calls for three weeks. What do you think I should do? We instinctively want to know why, so we can process it and store it in our memories for future reference. People handle their disagreements with others in very different ways.
Some people are quite vocal in their reasons, while others will clam up and withdraw from the situation. The silent treatment is a form of punishment in many couple's relationships and could be the cause of the sudden ice wall you just encountered in your developing interests.
Some people just don't like confrontation and this is preferable to telling the other person why they start losing interest or are no longer interested at all. Other indications that he might be punishing you could be if he deliberately makes out with a girl in front of you, talks loudly with his friends when he sees you around, or becomes clumsy or brusque in your presence.
Although this behavior is immature, it tells you a lot about the other person, especially where they are in terms of their development. Since so much of our communication is based on body language, it's easy to believe we misinterpreted a dating relationship if there weren't any words that could solidly cement our feelings. But according to Cornell University researchers, if he's been giving off signals that he's interested, then suddenly ignores you, it's probably not because you had misinterpreted his intentions in the first place.
Most communication between two people is nonverbal. When we first meet someone, prolonged eye contact, relaxed postures and dilated pupils are all signals that this person is attracted to us or us to them. But this is just an initial attraction and does not necessarily last. Over time, if the other person avoids eye contact, leans away from you, or crosses their arms, this is a good indication that they are losing interest and provides you with a lot of good feedback.
If he's ignoring you, it's possible he is either trying to speed up or slow down the development of the relationship. He may be trying to stimulate your attention by playing hard to get , or he may be trying to establish a more dominant role. It is also important to look at your own behavior during this time. Perhaps you were leading him on because you enjoyed the attention. If this is the case perhaps it's time for you both to be honest and start communicating with one another.
In these situations, you may have to take the initiative and confront him. Sometimes, being upfront is the best option. Don't be afraid to ask the question: are you interested in dating me? If he doesn't answer immediately with yes then this provides you with a lot of information and you can make your decision about continuing to pursue him or not for your love life.
Sometimes, you may have to be the mature one and address his behavior. If he is telling you that he wants to date you but his behavior says otherwise, this needs to be challenged.
This can be done in a non-threatening manner. For instance, in such a discussion, try and use I language rather than your language. These two pronouns can create very different messages. When you express a statement such as I feel confused about what I am experiencing in this relationship, you take ownership of your feelings and express them without provocation.
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